Kevin just got slammed with a huge deadline, so he's essentially out of commission on childcare/packing for the rest of the week. I'm sending e-mails to some folks off the mom mail sitter list because we really have to have help today so I can pack, but this is not a great week to be introducing new people into Kavi's life -- she's got enough change and chaos to deal with, given the move. Argh. Poor munchkin.
Our childcare situation may be changing fairly radically soon -- we're going to try a pre-school for Kavi on Wednesday, see what she thinks of it. We'll still have some help for Anand, but possibly much less, to save money. (Maybe just mornings?) We may start him in the pre-school/daycare too, but probably not until he's at least 1. (About 3 months from now.)
I've realized one thing this past year -- I really HATE it when people are late, especially people who work for me. Or when they cancel at the last minute. It's fine arranging time off in advance, and sure, occasional lateness happens. Car trouble, slept through alarm, whatever. But when it's more than 5% of the time (or in our case, lately, more than 95% of the time), it drives me crazy. This is going to be a major priority with the next childcare person we hire, and I'm going to try to make that clear up front, because I think a big part of the problem is me.
I've been too easy-going, and I don't yell at people. I suck at yelling. Or even speaking sternly. I do okay with Kavya on making boundaries clear, but I'm not nearly so good when managing adults. Also, since I work from home so much, I'm sure it's harder for people to understand that when I say 9, I really mean 9. They probably don't realize that every minute I'm sitting there waiting for them to show, I'm getting angrier and angrier.
I want our next childcare provider to be:
- prompt (!)
- reliable (!!)
- actively engaged with kids while at work (i.e., not chatting on phone with friends, etc.)
- willing to do other household work on occasion (a load of dishes, kids' laundry, help me pack, etc.)
If you were hiring new childcare, what would you prioritize, and why?