Still, today feels luxurious. Nilofer's sisters are in town, so she doesn't need her babysitter, Laura, today or Monday -- so she asked Laura if she'd like to pick up some extra cash coming down and watching Kavi, and Laura said yes. So she's here now, and is feeding Kavi her applesauce even as I type this (sitting at the same table), and it's just lovely.
It's funny, there's this whole debate around nannies and au pairs and the like. There are a lot of parents (mostly moms, it seems) who seem to feel very strongly that unless you do the majority (or all) of the parenting, that you aren't really a parent, and shouldn't have taken on the job. And this just seems really odd to me. Whether you have someone around to help for two hours a day, or eight, or twelve -- in the end, you're still the parent. It's your final responsibility to make sure your child is cared for. I suppose there are some kids that are raised entirely by a nanny, and that does seem a little odd to me, but I think that's the exception, not the rule. Most folks I know who have childcare (at home or elsewhere) are still really involved in parenting.
I suspect those folks (mostly women) who disdain the nanny wouldn't speak up nearly as strongly if, say, your sister lived next door and came by every evening to watch your kids and give you a break. There's a lot of class politics involved in paid help, which is a whole other discussion to get into, and which I'm not even going to start right now. :-) For me, I'll just say that I'm very glad that we can afford a little childcare help, and I think Kavi will have a mommy who is happier and more relaxed and cheerful with her as a result.
(My parents used to tell us that they NEVER used a babysitter with us, not even to go out to a movie. All I can say is, they're stronger folks than we are.)
Plan for today: catch up on e-mail, sew up one of Ellie's favorite toys (a pink stuffed octopus) that she started destroying (so it'll last a bit longer), look at my seeds and figure out if there are any I should be starting in January, do some more unpacking (no, we're still not done) and sorting of clothes for charity, go to the garden store (to get a pot for my jasmine) and the grocery store (to get curry fixings for Sunday's brunch), make Kavi's next doctor's appointment. If I finish all those, I may try to write -- but I may not, because tomorrow Laura's friend Jarmila is coming to watch Kavi from 9-5, and I'm going to try to do a real writing day. I have major plans for the YA novel. And then Laura comes back on Monday. Very exciting.
This evening, Satya is stopping by around 6:30 to hang out for a while, hopefully have some dinner, and then around 8:30-9ish, Karen is coming by on her way to a convention in Michigan; she's going to crash here and then head onwards in the morning, so we should hopefully have a little time to talk. Especially if she wants to wake up around 4:30 with me and Kavi. :-)