It's interesting, because I think five years ago, we would have gone, no question. Maybe even two years ago. But we're older and things have changed for us. One big thing in particular, which did influence our desire to be close to friends and family...[drum roll, please...]
I'm pregnant! Currently twenty-three weeks along, with a due date of May 28th, and according to all the testing so far, it's going to be a healthy baby girl. Yay!
We took a long time coming to this decision to try to have a kid, and to be honest, even after five months, I think Kev and I are both still adjusting our minds to the changes this will bring to our lives. Big changes and small -- among other things, I'll be missing WisCon this year (sad) and I've had to bow out of teaching at Clarion this summer (even sadder), since I doubt I'd be much good to the students while trying to cope with a baby that's only a few weeks old. I don't know yet whether I'll be teaching full-time or part-time next year; that depends on how the rest of the job stuff works out. Though thankfully, with both of us in academia, even if we're both full-time that still leaves us lots of time with baby. We probably will need a bit of child care, though -- recommendations in Chicago's Wicker Park area are welcome. :-)
Sorry I've had to keep this news quiet for so long -- at first we wanted to wait until we were through the high miscarriage potential in the first trimester (and we knew the risks for Downs, etc. weren't too bad). And then even after we knew that, we still had job market concerns, and it's only this past week that we've decided that while we're still looking at various other jobs in the U.S., it's unlikely at this point that any of them will be affected by knowledge of the pregnancy. But fear not -- I *have* been keeping a secret journal about the pregnancy, and as soon as I have a chance to go through it and make sure all the details are fit for public consumption, I'll link to it here, so you can hear all my pregnancy woes and worries. There's certainly been a lot of fretting along the way...
But mostly, we're just happy, and excited, and crossing our fingers for a smooth delivery and a healthy baby at the end of it. Wish us luck!