I'm not going to call this a review, because I've only read a tenth of the book so far, but I really really want to recommend _Writing Below the Belt: Conversations with Erotic Authors_, by Michael Rowe, published by Masquerade, IBN 1-56333-540-9.
The first quote grabbed me: We are all in the same boat, in a stormy sea, and we owe each other a terrible loyalty. - G.K. Chesterton.
The rest of the book is a set of conversations with ten erotica authors, some of which I know and some I don't. The are: Dorothy Allison, Laura Antoniou, Michael Bronski, Pat Califia, Lars Eighner, Nancy Kilpatrick, Will Leber, Michael Lowenthal, Scott O'Hara, V.K. McCarty, John Preston, Leigh W. Rutledge, Steven Saylor, Caro Soles, and Larry Townsend.
Fascinating reading so far, and a great inspirational resource to keep on your shelf, especially when the bastards are getting you down.