It's been a rough week here. I love Kavi, but I'm finding the whole SAHM (stay-at-home-mom) thing *really* hard. Hard as in, by the end of the day, I'm counting the minutes until Kevin gets home, and have to resist the urge to just shove the baby into his arms and go hide under the covers until bedtime. Which I would totally do, except that he's working really hard on the math stuff, and this intensive semester is a great opportunity for him to get lots of good stuff done, mostly in collaboration with others, and so I really want to try to help him get as much work done as possible. But, but, but.
We did have some help last week. Shannon came by for an afternoon, as did Jed, and both times, I fled the apartment and left them alone with the baby for a few hours, which helped keep my sanity. We really need to set up at least an afternoon a week of regular babysitting, I think, if our budget allows it (funds are tight this fall, because I'm not earning any money; although they're paying me a reasonable salary for the year, the Northwestern gig doesn't start paying me 'til January. And since UIC will be paying me notably less for the no-admin position, we probably should just save as much as we can of the Northwestern money anyway). It's not that we can't afford babysitting; we can. We just maybe can't afford it + eating out (except as a very occasional special treat). Sigh. I do love eating out.
It's not all baby, of course. If it were, I really would go mad. I don't know how full-time SAHM's do it. On the weekends, the grandparents help babysit, and I can do other things. Yesterday I had workshop and Kevin's birthday dinner; today I have a baby shower and a party at Jed's. (Which latter I need to go cook for imminently.)
God, I had a great workshop yesterday. I brought the YA novel, and in some sense, they just confirmed what I already knew were the problems therein. But a) they gave me lots of nice compliments on my writing style in general and the early chapters in particularly, which I find that I rather need, since my confidence got pretty thoroughly shaken after the all TA debacle, and b) they gave me tons of concrete and useful suggestions on how to *fix* the problems that I knew were there. I'm so eager to carve out a four hour block of time sometime in the next week to try to really punch through a revision; we'll see whether we can manage to find some money in the budget for babysitting.
Note: Re: the YA novel and the whole question I posted a few entries back, I got some great responses, but had a further question in the comments, which would appreciate some feedback on. Hmm...if you want the specifics, I'd recommend going back to that entry/comments, but maybe I can post it in more general form here:
Let's say you're writing a fantasy novel based on a historical time/place. Let's further stipulate that the culture you're writing about is unfamiliar to the majority of your readers, and so there's a certain likelihood that they'll believe that aspects of what you write (EVEN IF YOU TOTALLY MAKE THEM UP) are culturally true for that time/place. Is it problematic to 'mislead' readers this way? I mean, you could argue that it's all fiction, fine, and all fantasy, even better, and maybe that should be enough justification for making up whatever stuff you want. But, to take the specific case, I somehow feel uncomfortable leading a white, western audience to assume that polyamory/polygyny/etc. were actually commonly practiced in ancient Sri Lanka...