I’m feeling a craving to…

I'm feeling a craving to cut my hair very short. I don't know if I'm going to do it, but if I do, I want to pay a good hairstylist who knows what he/she is doing. (Ideally, pay them once to get a fabulous haircut, take a photo, and then pay someone cheaper to retouch it as necessary :-). If anyone knows a great hairstylist in Chicago, please drop me a line.

19 thoughts on “I’m feeling a craving to…”

  1. may I have a nervous breakdown about my thesis… will someone talk me off the ledge? dealing with 30 hour work weeks, a full course load, the thesis and a new hubby has got my stretched too thin….

    …and really, why did I have to decide everything I’ve written up to this point is crap? because…. you know, it would have been an a lot easier to compile a volume of work if I liked anything pre-6 months ago.


    MA — hair. you can’t go “that” short. you have a round face. you can do nice layers framing your face, short enough to just barely tucked behind your ears. that’s being honest. my mother is a cosmotologist. one of her specialties is advising on hair-cuts-that-will look-good-on-a-person. I showed her your picture and this is what she said.

  2. Some of my favorite funky short haircuts have been on women with quite round faces, so I’d say you can actually do anything you want to. But you shouldn’t listen to my advice anyway; I want everyone else to go short so I can live vicariously. Short hair on me, alas, only means spasmodic frizz until the hair grows long enough to weigh itself down again.

  3. I am aware of the round face dilemma. Tragic. I don’t actually want it cropped dyke-short or anything, but my sisters have both done very short curl-type things. I’m not entirely sure I want curls, and I’m not sure my hair will curl. It’s all unclear to me. I want someone qualified to sit down with me and show me pictures of what my options are.

    Of course there’s also the option of losing twenty pounds, but I think my basic face shape is still round regardless. Again, tragic.

  4. See, these are some of the options that are appealing to me right now. I do realize that my sister’s faces don’t look like mine, but somehow seeing their new hairstyles is what makes me realize that I could change mine. Don’t ask me why.

    Here’s Sharmi with her hair cut very short and wavy.

    And here’s both of my sisters with slightly longer and curly (again, I like Sharmi’s better, but Mirna’s is also good).

    Ericka, I probably have lots of questions for your mom. If she doesn’t mind me pestering her, I could ask them?

  5. MA – ask away. Sadly, I cannot give you her email so you can ask her directly because she doesn’t have an email address. We talk several times a week though….

    also, a lot of “fancier” hair places are starting to get these computer programs where they take a picture of your head and then you can “try on” different hair styles. I’m sure there is somewhere in Chicago that offers that type of service. =]

  6. Well, actually, Ericka, my first question would be if there’s a photo on the web or something that would show what you described in your first comment above, because I’m having trouble picturing it.

    And my second question would be if your mom would mind looking at the photos of my sisters and letting me know if those are just terrible ideas for my face.

    And my third question would be, if I cut it short, am I just going to end up with a big frizzball around my head? Usually I rely on the weight of my longer hair to pull it down, so it’s not all sad and poofy. ’cause as you can see here, in that balloon photo, my hair can get very scary. It’s not so bad in the one to the left, though. The one above is more of the typical mass o’hair look I had through most of high school, though.

  7. Perfect answer, I’ve had crushes on cute dykes too, they tend to just look at me, smile, and shake their heads… maybe with the comment that I’m just the wrong gender for them. But always with a good sense of humor.

  8. real quick… the program i was referring to is like the one featured here: http://www.thehairshow.co.uk/

    I’ll get back to you on the other questions, but I can tell you for de-frizzing, it’s all about the products you’re willing to use. there a lot of good ones out there now that won’t leave your hair feeling like a grease trap. whoever cuts your hair should be able to steer you in the right direction…. =]

  9. Interesting program! I want one to play with at home now. 🙂 I don’t mind using product, though I didn’t used to use it in high school, which might have been because product seemed scary, stiffy and icky back then. It appears to have improved. I use Aveda’s Be Curly these days, when I remember. It smells good.

    Hey, good luck with your dissertation. Don’t go out of your way to pester your mom on all this — I’m probably just redirecting my exam energy to something I feel like I have some control over — my hair!

  10. hmm I wouldn’t go as far as that…as a woman who loves woman all around, I can’t say that it is a term that I would use or like to be referred to as. and yes I have short hair. perhaps its a canadian thing. dunno, but it just seems so crude to me.

  11. It’s probably not so much a Canadian-American thing as an even more specific cultural thing for the groups I hang out in — college lgbt groups, followed by Bay Area queers and sex workers and such. Very little tends to stay offensive for long within those circles — maybe because if we could be offended by that kind of language, we’d just end up offended all the time. 🙂 We’re such outsiders to general American society, that there’s all kinds of names for us.

  12. well after discussion with a friend – you are fairly correct. not sure I am in agreement with her explanaition, but it makes sense I suppose. apparently I am what you would classify (if on must be classified) as a lipstick lesbian. cultural it is.

  13. Whereas I remain oddly in-between — uncomfortable with actual lipstick, pretty femme-y in appearance (I mostly wear dresses, because they feel comfortable to me, and I used to have long hair), but I love power tools and doing sweaty stuff. Someone once told me that I’d never be butch, no matter how short I cut my hair…maybe that’s true, but I don’t want to be purely femme either. Even if it’s fun sometimes, playing the girly-girl.

  14. Hiyas, saw one of your posts on the Tangent Online boards and have been checking out your site. Thanks for all the things you share… 🙂

    As for hair, I also have curly hair and go through what I call the ‘long hair cycle.’ I’m currently in the short phase but got a style I’m happy with so may stay there.

    My face is longer than round but what you may consider is an inverted V, kind of retro like a flapper. The hair is longer in the front and you get great layers in the back. If you want a consultation I recommend Mario Tricoci studios and I’m pretty sure they have a branch in Chicago.

    I also do funky stuff with my hair color, i.e. big streaks of red and blonde. Never thought it would look as cool as it did. I have a couple pictures if you are interested.

    Good luck and thanks!

  15. okay — for your face shape (which she agreed was round, although very close to being heart shaped as well) and hair consistency she suggest a loosely layered lip length cut. This means, only a few layers, the longest layer falling at the bottom of your bottom lip, the shortest layer falling no shorter than your nose. here are a couple pictures of styles she showed me:



  16. I’m a 31 year old male soccer coach who has developed crows feet around the eyes. Is there are proven recomended product I can purchase to help and delay this. I knowe it will not get rid of it but I want to change it?

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