Yes, it's three diary entries in a row -- aren't you proud of me?
I'm in a really good mood this morning. I don't know whether it's because
I slept in, or because Sherman is arriving today, or because the weather
is beautiful (one of Chicago's 8 allotted gorgeous spring days/yr), or
because I took a really long hot shower this morning. Whatever the
reason, life is good. :-)
I found a quote I wanted you guys to read. The context was on dealing
with jealousy, but I think the quote can apply to a lot more:
"Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your
Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the
sun, so must you know pain.
And could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your
life, your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy:
And you would accept the seasons of your heart, even as you have always
accepted the seasons that pass over your fields. And you would watch with
serenity through the winters of your grief." (Kahlil Ghibran, The
I found it in a rather good book, _The Ethical Slut_, that just came out
from Greenery Press. While the book focuses on polyamory, the techniques
and attitudes it describes can also often by helpful in monogamous
relationships. It's a bit simple, and simply worded, but I imagine it
would make a wonderful primer. I felt a bit odd reading it, because while
I didn't really come across anything I didn't know (so far, anyway -- I'm
only halfway through), it's strange to see codified and written down all
sorts of things that I had to struggle through and figure out on my own.
It's interesting watching other people come to similar conclusions. I
doubt reading the book is really a substitute for struggling through it
yourself -- but it may make the growing pains a little easier to bear --
it helps to be braced for it.
Oh, I saw the movie, _Jerry McGuire_, last night. Really quite well done
-- I wasn't expecting much from a romantic comedy sports movie, and
actually there were some stellar performances, an utterly charming female
lead (who managed to be beautiful without looking unbelievably Hollywood),
and actually intelligent writing. The dialogue was really impressively
non-cliched. Of course, it's not Fellini, but for a romantic comedy
sports movie, highly recommended.
Little else to report. Sherman has had some trouble with organizing this
trip, apparently (loss of e-mail access and a memory failure in his
electronic organizer!), so it's rather unclear when he'll arrive. Ah
well. More reading, more e-mailing. Same old same old, but maybe I'll
work outside for a while today. Hard to resist...and after all, why