When I first met Jed, I was living in California, just forty-five minutes from him (if the traffic gods were kind). When we started dating, twelve years ago, we could see each other relatively often. Since then, I've moved to Utah (far away), and then to Chicago (even further). I've gone from being a student to working to being a student to working again; now I'm working full-time, for the first time in years (did I mention that I started a new administrative position this fall?), and keep being surprised by how much time a day job takes. I've broken up with Kevin and gotten back together with him. I've had two children, who despite childcare, still eat up a ridiculous amount of time. (Largely delightful time, but still, time.) This is not what most people picture when they think of poly relationships!
All of which is to say that my relationship with Jed has gone through a lot of changes over the last twelve years. I've gotten older, crankier, more harried, and less fun. He's had to be really patient with me, especially lately. Luckily for me, he's a patient guy. Just one of the reasons why I love him.
Happy anniversary, sweetie!
A poly life is still a life, and yours sounds wonderful! Not sure what you mean about it not being most peoples’ idea of a poly life. Congratulations, and wishing you many more years and joys with both sweeties and both children, and any more of either who come into your life in times to come.
Heh. I think when most people hear ‘polyamory’ their minds jump to the ‘hot bi babes’ sorts of scenarios…
But you are a hot bi babe, right?
I suspect the fantasy version involves less spit-up. 🙂
Happy anniversary!
Thanks for this entry.
But that last full paragraph makes things sound a little like you have become Difficult while I am Eternally Patient. Whereas I think I’m often Difficult and you’re often Patient (and I appreciate that as well). Which is to say, we’re both older and busier than we once were (“…younger than we’ll be; that’s not unusual,” as the song says); we sometimes have problems; I’m very glad and grateful that we seem to manage to resolve them, together.
For more on this, see my new entry, “Anniversaries Apart.”
Happy anniversary to you, too!