Yesterday was a weird…

Yesterday was a weird day. The morning was okay -- I had my doctor's appt. and ultrasound, and it all went fine. I'm at 27.5 weeks, and baby boy is progressing right on schedule. I told my doctor about my various deeply irritating pregnancy complaints at the moment. Restless leg syndrome that drags me up out of bed in the middle of the night to take a hot shower because that's the only thing that makes the ants crawling under my skin go away; blindingly painful leg cramps; this weird intermittent pain that comes and goes and which I can't remember whether it feels like a degenerating fibroid (like last time) or something else altogether. She sympathizes with the first two, because there's not much else to be done, and tells me to take Tylenol for the weird pain and let her know if it continues or if the Tylenol doesn't relieve it. So, all pretty much as expected. Pregnancy sucks, per usual, but at least baby boy is doing fine. The ultrasound tech tells me he's very active. Yes, I knew that. A little gymnast I have, leaping around in there. Thanks, kid.

So I come home, and Lori comes by with Ursa, which is great, and we talk about why we aren't writing our books, which is frustrating but also somewhat cathartic, and maybe it'll clear the way for actually writing our books again, who knows. And I start work on a cool knitting project for a wedding gift, and it quickly becomes clear that it will not actually be completed by said wedding, which is tomorrow. Ah well. Venu and Sendhil will get it eventually; hopefully they'll like it. I did get them some other things already, so I don't feel so bad.

Then they go, and Kavi goes down for nap and Jarmila leaves, and I lie down and try to nap, because I'd stayed up too late talking to Kevin the night before, but no luck, so I finish re-reading Thrones and Dominations, which is almost as romantic and good as Busman's Honeymoon, which is really one of the best books ever. And then Kavi wakes up and I take her downstairs and she's in a crabby mood, and I'm tired and baby boy is doing jumping jacks now and there's this new weird pinchy feeling in my uterus which is almost certainly nothing, because that's what pregnancy is like, this serious of weird aches and pains that are totally normal and nothing to worry about, but I worry anyway. And my mood starts getting darker. It's alleviated for a bit by talking with Jed on the phone, but when I get off the phone, it comes crashing down again.

And by the time Kevin comes home, I've finished making a rhubarb-raspberry pie, but that's about all I've accomplished all day and I'm really irritated with Kavi for no good reason, so I let him deal with her so I won't snap at her and I lie on the couch and watch dumb tv, getting more and more upset and angry at the world and myself. So that by the time, three hours later, that Kevin's put the child to bed and come back down, I'm basically mad enough to spit nails and am also weeping my head off. And it takes him a long time to talk me down.

I don't even really know what exactly I was so upset about. Our chaotic childcare situation, as we move to Oak Park, was the proximate cause, but there's also a massive amount of dreading the hell of dealing with an infant and concurrent lack of sleep, anxiety about breastfeeding and whether I can get it right this time, plus frustration about my only two weeks of maternity leave (which I still need to formally apply for and make sure they have someone to cover my class for). Then there's the massive dose of despair at having done so little writing this summer (I did finish a chapter of the space opera on Wednesday, which was enjoyable and satisfying and one of the few bright spots of the week; we'll see what my writing group thinks of it on Sunday). I was going to finish writing a book this summer. Maybe two. And then there's the generalized disappointment in myself as a mother and wishing I actually wanted to read the same damn books to Kavi over and over and over again, rather than handing my child off to anybody else at every opportunity. That's making me feel great about having another one coming, let me tell you.

Also, the pie was too sweet and too jellied, and the crust wasn't buttery enough. Pfui.

Kevin tells me I'm underestimating the effect of pregnancy on my moods/energy levels/etc. He might be right. Although that doesn't help so much since a) I have three months of pregnancy to go, and b) the new infant thing isn't likely to help my mood much either.

Then I slept badly, and had anxiety dreams, and woke up still cranky. So forgive my foul mood today, anyone who happens to talk to me. I'm going to try to be productive and just churn through a whole list of things to get done; I'm hoping that that will alleviate some of the self-loathing.

I deadheaded the roses and butterfly bush this morning. That was sort of satisfying. I wish I had more things that needed chopping.

6 thoughts on “Yesterday was a weird…”

  1. Kevin’s right, of course (you knew that), but I completely relate to your apprehension about having a newborn, and dealing with breastfeeding and such. I can’t tell you how much your descriptions echo my life at similar points.

    I don’t know what the point of this is, possibly just to say that you aren’t the only one that feels like that, and to remind you how soon they get past that phase and turn into little people.

    And to say 2 weeks of maternity leave sucks, and I spectacularly sympathise. That’s really unreasonable.

    Just good vibes coming from here, and wishes for better days.

  2. OK, that’s it. I’m coming over on Monday and we’re writing on our books, OK? Both of us. What time should I be there?

  3. Mary Anne Mohanraj

    [deep breath] Okie. Umm…I have no schedule Monday — Jarmila is here starting at 9. So anytime between then and 4 I should be free, I think.

  4. I can be there at 10. Are you ready? Whether it’s AP or it’s your space opera, be ready to get some pages done. Just a few pages, and then you can work on your academic project or whatever if you need to. Deal?

  5. Mary Anne Mohanraj

    Yes. Sounds good. We will be focused and productive.

    I was going to write this morning too, but now I have this weird online-tv-skype thing I agreed to do at 11 (more details in later entry), which means I need to go shower and color the grey out of my hair now, try to find something to wear and some make-up, etc. Totally messes up writing plans.

    Ah well — I probably would have just wandered aimlessly around the house instead anyway.

  6. Oh, your fame messes up your writing plans? OK, Monday. We start on Monday. You’ll have feedback from the group from Sunday, even.

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