Well, I made a random…

Well, I made a random abrupt decision yesterday -- I'm flying out to the East Coast this weekend. It's a surprise for my mother (I don't *think* she reads this journal); she's celebrating her 50th birthday at my aunt's in Boston. So I'll fly into New York, spend a day with Alex, then take the train up to Boston, see Debby and Todd briefly, and then be there for both her birthday and my baby cousin's first birthday (same weekend). Fly back on Monday. It'll be a little crazy, with something like ten or twelve hours of travel time crammed into one weekend, but what the heck! Most of what I have to do this weekend is grad school reading anyway, which I should be able to do on the plane/train. The only problem is that I'd like to be able to travel light...I can fit my clothes and computer into my backpack, plus a few books...but can I fit recreational books as well as study books? That's the real dilemma.

M'ris, I feel like we're somehow missing each other on this discussion. I'm certainly not saying that you can't write father-son relationships, for example. I guess what I'm really saying is that writers who have had a particular experience, have something of an edge when they sit down to write it. I *know* what the roadside samosas in Sri Lanka taste like, and they don't taste anything like the ones I make, or the ones you get in any Indian restaurant I've been in in the U.S. That knowledge might help me when I sit down to write about it. That doesn't mean that, in the end, you might not write a more convincing or even more realistic depiction of those samosas. Just that I had an advantage when I started out. And that given that kind of advantage, it's not surprising that Audra might find some hard-to-define commonalities between women writers who write about mothering. And that given limited time, and perhaps experience with a lot of men doing it badly (as with lesbian porn, for a completely different example), she might find that mostly she gravitates towards women writers as being *likely* to give her the experience she's looking for more often. Now...her examples, I'll grant you, are not necessarily the best, and I do agree that A.I. in particular was a bit unfair of a choice for a counterexample. But I don't think she needed to prove that men couldn't do it...just that she had encountered plenty of male writers whose takes on mothering had been unsatisfying to her, unrealistic. I suspect she has, and just didn't do a great job of specifying such.

Anyway. Gotta go finish commenting on two more student papers and then head in. Long day today. See y'all later...

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